We all need friends we can talk to, someone with whom we can vent our difficulties in life. Or we might just want a friend that we can have fun with. Finding the right friend who can meet your expectations can be challenging. You want a friend who shares the same values, a friend who can encourage you, congratulate you after achieving something, respect you and also a friend who does not take advantage of you.

By choosing the right friends, you will avoid disappointment, stress, or even depression.

You should look for a friend who has your best interest at heart. There may be people who seem to care about your life, but in reality they are only interested in getting something from you for their own selfish gain and will do anything without worrying about you, even if you are friendly with them.

Before you know how to choose your friends you need to “study them all”, know their weaknesses and strengths, try to understand them. This will give you an understanding to choose your friends and also to become a leader.

The following are steps I use to help me select the right friends.

1. Choose a friend with the same values ​​as you.

Everyone has their own values ​​and it is essential that a person who is your friend does not go against these values.

Let’s say you are very respectful of your possessions and would hate someone who would treat them disrespectfully. So you should look for a friend who has your best interest at heart and not a friend who is willing to please people without worrying about your limits. This is a person who can easily betray you, especially if they are trying to be cool so they can fit into another social group.

2. Choose a friend to cheer you on.

A cheering friend is almost your best friend. This is a person who is interested in your life, your goals, and what you want to achieve without manipulating it for your own selfish gain. A friend who encourages you will not put you in a place where you feel envy. A person who makes you envious and pretends to be your friend doesn’t really care about you.

Such a person will talk almost all the time about their greatest achievements or their next big projects that will make them successful. Avoid these people because their actions will make you envious leading to stress and then depression, they can easily destroy your life and they won’t even care what happened to you.

3. Choose a friend who shares similar interests.

These are the fun friends and best friends to be with when you’re feeling down. You could share interests like music, sports, arts, or adventures.

4. Pick a friend who can celebrate your success.

It is very rare to find a friend who can celebrate your success. If you find one, be sure to keep them close by. This is a true friend because that person is interested in you, will drive you to achieve your goals and celebrate each milestone.

5. Avoid manipulative people.

Manipulative people are smart. They can easily trick you into becoming their friends. This is how these people trick you into becoming their friends;

• They will tell you something of truth about their life so that they can build trust with you (you in turn will think that this is a person who sees you as a good friend and you do not want to disappoint them).
• They will start helping you when you need assistance, even when you haven’t asked for it.
• Then they will notice your interests and come up with something that will make you envious.
• They will ask you about your goals and accomplishments in life for your own selfish gain and will not encourage you to achieve them.

If you suspect someone is manipulating you for their own selfish gain, be sure to end the friendship.

6. Avoid people who love to gossip.

Gossiping is childish; you should find a friend who likes to take care of his own affairs. Don’t be too quick to choose your friends. People who love gossip and are your friends can easily destroy your reputation, even if it means saving their own skin.

If you have a friend and you suspect that they are gossiping, be sure to confront them carefully, because if you don’t, your friendship will become awkward and you will eventually become enemies.

7. Choose a friend with common goals.

If you have a goal in life to own a certain business and you meet a person with the same dream, you should make sure you are friends. When selecting those friends (this is not the case in all situations as it depends on the people working together) make sure you do not have the same skills as this can lead to competition and instead of working together you will be rivals .

8. Choose friends who always want to gain more knowledge.

Knowledge is the key in life, having friends who can help you learn something new from them is great. They can provide you with information that will help you in your life.

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