If you can speak, you can improve your public speaking. What is your passion? When giving a presentation, think about how it will lead you to what makes you happy. Perhaps use a story about what you like to do best to describe what you are trying to say. Relate what you are trying to say to something you are passionate about, or perhaps something your audience is passionate about!

Let’s talk about fear!

The Cycle of Fear: How Do We Create It? How do we use it? How do we lose it?

• Nobody lives without fear. Trying to get rid of all fear is not only exhausting and frustrating, but ultimately deprives you of an important source of motivation and energy. I’ve been a professional keynote speaker for over 10 years and I still feel that adrenaline rush every time I go on stage, but I use that energy to improve my performance. Fear causes most of our stress. If you are not afraid, you are playing too safe or you are out of touch with your feelings … or maybe dead. Something to think about: Heroes and cowards feel the same fear. The only difference is the action they take.

You do it by facing your fear. Don’t be afraid of fear – look the monster in the eye! If you deny it or run from it, it will track you down and torture you in one of its many disguises.

Let’s take a look at the cycle of fear

1. Fear exaggerates everything

• Imagined consequences: people will leave or I will put them to sleep.
• They don’t like me: They’ll think I’m an idiot or a hobbyist.
• They will feel pressured because I am trying to sell them something and not like me.
• Mad fear destroys confidence.

2. Fear distorts perception

• You see what you BELIEVE. Your perceptions are based on your belief system. You look in the front row and they all look like the jury that just found you guilty. You see a person looking at their watch and you think NO ONE is interested. Someone made the mistake of not giving anyone a bathroom break for two hours and you see people get up to leave just as YOU start talking.
• You see imagined obstacles.

3. The physical response

• The heart is pounding, the mouth is dry, the palms of the hands are sweating.
• Your larynx tightens, you drop things, and your voice gets loud.

4. The fear response: freezing or frenzy

• You stop and procrastinate or do bad deeds quickly.
• You slow down or accelerate and your mind starts racing. Chances are, he says “weird stuff” and then wonders why that came out of his mouth.

5. Thumbs Down: Your Worst Expectations Met

• In the fog of fear, his performance matches his bad expectations.
• Its performance is below its real capacity.

So the next time you act, you remember your last time and worry even more. It is not a lack of skill. Fear took control.

How to take advantage of the fear of public speaking

• Use fear for excitement and energy and channel it into positive action.
• Fear is a survival tool, not an impediment.
• Remember that fear tells lies and lies cause failure!

Stage presence: attracting attention

• Know what you are going to say.
• Practice makes buffing and polishing money.
• If you have a stage presence they will forgive you everything else.
• Do you want to attract attention? Is it important for people to pay attention to you when you speak?
• What do you think you can do to make people notice you more when you speak?
• What do you think people see when they look at you? How do you think you sound?
• Practice talking about your favorite thing.

Practice letting your passion out

• Don’t be Mr. Meek, Mr. Fake, or Mr. Bored. Be yourself, just BIGGER
• Finding your voice: Where is it going? Try to speak as loudly as you can and then lower yourself to a natural level.
• Practice theater-style warm-up exercises, like saying over and over as fast as you can: red-leather-yellow-leather gold you know you need a unique new york
• Everyone is charming: someone somewhere thinks you are charming (at least your mother).
• Let’s talk about ourselves: “Enough of me, what do you think of me?”: Remember that no matter how interesting you are, the audience will always be more interested in themselves!
• Get feedback from practice – ask your friends, family, co-workers, and especially a coach if you have a chance to work with one.

Do you have to be funny?

• No! You have to be honest. If you really want people to respond to you when you speak, speak with your heart, speak with passion. When you speak passionately, you are much more likely to be funny, charming, and hit an emotional chord. Talk about real things.
• What’s funny: K-sound words, short stories, self-mocking.
• Praise people’s ability and honor them, listen and look for the similarities
• Be yourself! People are attracted to people who are themselves, plain and simple.

Let’s review the specific techniques: Make it happen

• Never speak with your back to a window.
• Never speak when people are eating.
• Get as much information as you can about your audience.
• Lower your voice to make an important point and look people in the eye.
• Tell stories that describe your information (true stories are the best).
• Give wisdom from your point of view.
• Do your best not to say anything that no one else has said.
• Repeat the important points: use callbacks.
• Make good use of natural hand gestures – don’t point at the audience.
• Remember to channel fear into energy.
• Enjoy the attention!
• Every point you make should have three parts: say what you are going to say, say it, and then tell them what you said. Don’t worry if your audience is impressed with you, let them impress you with what they can do with your information.
• Memorize your introduction: It should include: Your topic, why your topic is important to the audience, and the speaker’s qualifications.
• Be real, be yourself, tell the truth.

The structure of your speech

• The first and last 30 seconds of your speech will have the greatest impact.
• Answer the questions that keep CEOs awake at night: It’s not their job to remind you. What have you done today to be remembered?
• An introduction is meant to get your attention. Memorize your introduction.
• Back Ground: What are you going to talk about?
• Body: Cover 3 points or a central point that everything relates to.
• Using a point-story-point The format is very efficient.
• Conclusion: Summarize so they understand where they have been and what they got out of it.

Practice: What do professional speakers do?

• Hone your skills in front of a mirror, if you have to memorize information, do it one sentence at a time, put yourself in front of a real audience as much as possible to practice in the car.
• Fear tells lies, but YOU don’t need to. Remember to tell yourself: I am an interesting person and I have good information.
• Practice makes buffing and polishing money.