On the last day of a recent “Bad Boy With A Heart” boot camp here in Sarasota, Florida, I took my students to The Tiki Bar for lunch. We all sat at the bar. I was at the end. I do this on purpose. I always feel in the best place… the place that really separates me from everyone else. So if a girl walks by, I get a chance to make eye contact with her…which opens up the possibility of getting to know her.
About 10 minutes after we were seated, a group of 3 girls and 2 guys walked to the other end of where the students were sitting at the bar. One of the girls was super cute. My student sitting at the end started going against everything we were talking about all weekend. She fell back into her old way of thinking (what the “community” taught her) and started throwing opening lines and jokes at the girl next to her.
I’ve been watching him completely screw up this interaction the whole time…shaking my head. The girl he was talking to was also shaking her head.
Meanwhile, he was making eye contact with the super cute girl behind them. After her group ordered their drinks, they walked over to a table and sat down. A super cute girl conveniently positioned herself where she could see me so we could still make eye contact. Her classmates sat in places where I couldn’t see them from my seat.
I continued to make eye contact with a super cute girl. A few minutes passed. Then one of the guys in the group came up to me and said that her sister was talking about me and she wanted to meet me. (The power of eyes at work!) I talked to him for a few minutes…just relaxing like I always do…not jumping or getting excited (which most guys would). I acted like I really didn’t care to meet her. As we talked, my trainers led the students into the seminar room. I stayed behind.
Once they were gone, the brother called his sister and everyone else went to the bar. I walked over and started talking to a super cute girl… who she had been constantly looking into her eyes while she was talking to the guy. It was so simple. I said, “So you wanted to meet me, huh?” while he looked into her eyes… thinking of nothing else. Instant connection.
Then one of the other girls asked me if I knew that guy across the bar. I said, “Yes, he is a friend of mine. Why?” Everyone laughed. She started talking about the pickup lines he was using with her. She went on to tell me what she said, but I honestly don’t remember what it was.
She said, “Wow! Now, I’ve heard them all!”
I laughed along with them. So the girl I was talking to asked me to hang out with them at a party. Obviously, I couldn’t because I had to go back to training camp. So I told him I had to go. She offered me her number. I said, “Here, I’ll write mine. Call me if you want to hang out.”
Point is, while everyone is sitting down and eating like they normally do, I’m picking up women… like I normally do. There were no stupid pickup lines. There was no approach anxiety. (Hell, there wasn’t even a close up!) There was no frustration or negative thoughts in my head. It was purely natural…the way I always know women.
You can pick up women like that all the time. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing… as long as you are aware, relaxed, calm and comfortable with yourself. But above all… you’re having a good time wherever you are.
With my instruction, my student who screwed up the interaction has since stopped using those lines by internalizing the correct magnetic mindset and has improved immensely. He realized that this is not the way.
