If you’ve ever gone out to eat, you know there are plenty of super hot waitresses and waitresses begging to be picked up by an older single man like you… While most guys go through this process only to be graciously turned down, you’re at About to learn the art of wooing a hot waitress from an old pro, yours truly.

The first thing to remember when picking up waitresses or dating younger women in general is that these women are usually more than open to dating older men like us.

The second thing to remember is that attractive waitresses are flirted with, watched and coveted by many men every day, just like strippers. They need to be polite and even flirt to keep customers happy, but unless a guy really stands out to them, they’ll automatically lump him in with all the other lewd customers.

Here are 6 killer tips to stand out from the crowd and pick up your hot female server:

1) Don’t sweat it. Most guys make the mistake of paying too much attention to their hot waitress. They compliment her, ask her questions about her life, try to “pick on her” and give her big tips. These things will make you look like every other asshole client she’s been with this week.

2) Be nice to your co-workers. Obviously you can’t be a jerk to any of the staff or they will all hate you. If she works at a restaurant that you frequent or have the ability to frequent, she tries to make friends with the waiters and managers. That way, you’ll have social proof and they’ll be able to present you as a cool guy instead of just a random customer.

3) Be original. “So, do you go to college around here?” or “Wow, that tray looks heavy” are not lines that work in your favor. Instead, tell him something interesting about yourself that gives him an idea of ​​who you are and what you’re all about. You can also make jokes about patrons at other bars or restaurants, or whatever else is going on around you to draw her into a conversation.

4) Don’t tip him anymore. This might work for strippers, but dropping $100 for a chicken sandwich and a couple of budites will make you look like a desperate guy who needs to pay for female attention. 30% say I’m cool and like you, but I’m not a loser trying to buy from you.

5) Don’t order female drinks. Don’t ask her for a raspberry mojito, a strawberry cosmo, or any other fruity crap, and don’t ask her what to drink either. Be a man and have a beer, or a little whiskey, or if you’re in AA, have a ginger ale. Also, don’t complain about the size or strength of your drink, the quality of the food, or anything else.

6) Do not write your number on a napkin. Back when I was a bartender, you knew I was calling ALL the girls who left me little notes scribbled on napkins and credit card receipts… But if you’re a guy, you really should step up and ask her out like a men. She’s working so she needs to be polite and she definitely won’t tell you to fuck off. You don’t need to be witty about it, just say “hey, do you want to have a drink with me later?”