Are you a super woman in everything but decoding male psychology? Do you understand everyone else in your life except the man you love? Does your relationship feel like a lot of work with very little reward?
Do you find that men say they want a strong woman, but then they don’t respond well to one? If you’re struggling with the answers to these questions, it’s time to decode male psychology and start looking at your relationships from a man’s perspective.
Men need mystery and excitement in their relationships. This probably doesn’t surprise you, but you may be wondering how to keep the mystery alive after you and your partner have fallen into a comfortable routine with each other. After all, at work you are rewarded for always being on time, for always having the correct answers, and for always looking eager and ready to work. However, try this with a man and you will find that there is very little payoff for being predictable. So lesson number one is not to treat your relationship like a job if you want to keep a man interested for long.
The next lesson in decoding male psychology is learning how to create this aura of emotion that men desperately want. When a man is really interested in you, he goes crazy wondering what you are doing when you are not with him. So give him something to wonder about. Always be honest, but elusive.
When you talk to him, leave out the details that you would normally share with one of your other friends. Have him take the information out of you slowly and playfully. No matter how comfortable you are with a particular man, always leave something to your imagination.
Something that may surprise you about male psychology is that men really want a safe and loving relationship with a suitable partner. They want emotional intimacy as much as you do. In other words, they want a friend, lover, seductress, and super woman, all in a tight package.
However, strangely enough, it doesn’t always seem like men date women with these qualities. It may even seem that men are attracted to the opposite type of woman. Why is that? In most cases, men take a reactive approach to relationships rather than a proactive one. Instead of really examining what they want in a woman, they will take the ones who come and make things easier for them. This is especially true when a man is young and there are many women available who simply make themselves available to him. As a man matures, he is more likely to start looking for a woman who is a true representation of what he wants in a life partner.
Knowing all this, what must you do to catch the man of your dreams?
Start with your appearance
Choose a classic and sexy look that is neither cheap nor stuffy. Most men prefer women to dress flirty and feminine. Accentuate your assets but don’t reveal too much skin. Give him something to think about.
Drop a ball every now and then
Keep your personal life and your work life separate. Don’t be so rigid about always answering the phone when you call or calling back right away. Let him be the one waiting and waiting for you to call. And when he asks you how your weekend was, don’t give him all the details.
Let him lead
While you may be perfectly comfortable in a leadership position, men feel more confident and secure when leading a relationship. This may sound old-fashioned, but for men to feel like men, they need to feel like they are in charge. This need you have is not a negative reflection of you. He knows that you are capable of taking control, so don’t be offended. Instead, sit back, relax, and enjoy.
Decoding male psychology is simply a matter of understanding how men think and then responding to that in a way that creates security and happiness for both of you. Relationships are about commitment and acceptance. Don’t fight a man’s natural desire for arousal and control. Give it what it needs and you too will get what you need.
