Yes, I have had a few hits accusing me of “mind control” or creating a “Stepford Wife” … these accusations are ridiculous. However, they are becoming more common as more and more friends look at us with envy. Lack of communication almost ruined my marriage, but after reading hundreds of books, working with counselors, and focusing like a laser on psychology and human relationships, I have distilled some simple, 100% guaranteed steps to selfishly create a trophy wife for myself. and a brilliant gentleman. armor for my wife …. we have become the most enviable couple in our community.
You CAN have a totally satisfying marriage and all the sex you want.
The hardest part is getting started. Manipulation of the female mind cannot be done quickly, permanently, or even as constantly. The very idea of understanding a woman is the worst part of many jokes. If you want more lust, sex, and adoration in your marriage, dear reader, have the guts to change yourself first! We’ll have something to talk about later if you do the following:
1. You cannot change another person. YOU have to change yourself first to affect someone else’s behavior or attitudes. People resist change on all fronts … including you. Start with that premise and you will overcome your biggest hurdle.
2. Women want to talk … a lot. Let them talk. Do not try to correct, advise or dismiss their comments. Just listening to a woman means that you are at least trying to understand. From time to time, repeat the ideas they are trying to convey without trying to find a solution. By empathic.
3. Discover your “language of love”. Each person communicates and responds to other people in their own way. Gary Chapman’s book, “The 5 Languages of Love” is an excellent read that will give you an idea of exactly what you can do, say and feel to double or triple the effectiveness of your communication and the results in your relationship. I have learned and applied this information for years and I can tell you from personal experience that the word “manipulation” may sound controlling, but to the recipient of this communication, they will believe that you are a genius (or that you were surprised by an enlightenment like Mel Gibson in the hit movie “What Women Want”, where he could read a woman’s mind). No skill is more important than sincerely understanding your partner’s needs.
The five main communication styles are:
a) Acts of service. Doing things for her – like picking up without being asked, giving her a massage, taking out the trash, or even spending time with the kids – can be the primary language of your wife’s love.
b) Receive gifts. Some women really respond to gifts. They are not necessarily materialistic; they simply see the gifts as a symbol of your love. Gifts don’t have to be expensive, but they should be personalized and from the heart.
c) Words of affirmation. Some people are more auditory than visual. If your wife responds more to what you say than to what she does, her primary love language may be the words she hears. Take a moment every day and tell her that you love her and that you will be there for her. Your desire for security is extremely strong. When you compliment her, be specific. Nothing screams insincerity than general flattery. “You look AMAZING in that dress” means more than “You look amazing.”
d) Quality time. The more time you spend with a woman, the more her security solidifies and the more she feels that you are dedicated to her. If your wife’s primary language is spending time together and you are a very busy person, you may need to schedule that time, as you would with a client meeting. Make it a priority and once in a while let her know that you are giving up that game of golf with the staff to stay home and watch a girl movie with her … she will definitely score!
e) Physical touch. For a large percentage of men, this is our primary language of love. It doesn’t always have to be sex either. Holding her hand, hugging her, hugging her, or even physically holding her arm to make a point, shows the person that you are connecting.
Keep in mind that YOUR primary love language may NOT be your wife’s primary, so the trick is to get her to understand your needs, right? Remember, you cannot change it without changing yourself first. Make sure you enter your language totally FIRST! Once you have established your primary love language, she will be more open to understanding and communicating with YOUR language. Get it? Give first to receive. If he still doesn’t respond after you’ve settled in and spoken to him consistently in his language, you’ve earned the rights to get a copy of Gary’s book and read it together. By showing a woman that you are interested in “getting in touch with your feelings” you will be in the top 1% of men who have a fiery trophy wife on their arm whenever they want … you will still be a man my friend, But you will be one who will be the envy of all your wife’s friends because you will be the one who truly understands your wife!
