If you live in a cold city, you’ve probably noticed that people tend to hibernate socially during the winter season. I knew it all too well, since I lived most of my adult life in Chicago. In my opinion, there is no better city in the world to pick up girls during the summer in Chicago, it is like the Mecca of beauties. However, as the months progress into fall and then into winter, the nightlife slowly diminishes. Bars that were packed in July turn into ghost towns in January. I don’t blame anyone either. Walking to the bar when it’s 3 degrees out, with the biting cold wind hitting your face, trying not to slip on your butt from all the sleet on the floor … NOT FUN! When you’re curled up in a warm bed watching Family Guy, it feels like a better option.
Consequently, most boys drop out when winter comes. It’s too easy to be lazy. This is a big mistake that can really affect your development. The breakthroughs that were being made during the summer and fall go out the window once a 4-month leave is taken. Once you go out looking for girls in the spring, it feels like you’ve started all over again. So treat winter like you would summer. Keep getting your butt out of the house and meet as many women as you can.
Since nightlife takes a hit during the winter months, your game plan should change with the season. In this article, I’ve outlined some terrific strategies on how to pick up girls during the cold, gray, and stay-at-home winter season.
Find a rotation during the fall
For many guys, winter season = bridal season. It is very convenient to be in a relationship when the weather is below zero. Again, dealing with the bar scene during the winter is not the most fun in the world. When you’re sitting at home in your boxers watching the snow fall like it’s not tomorrow, calling a girl and relaxing at home is just too convenient. In fact, this is something I would recommend if you are in a position to do so. It’s okay to sit back and reap the rewards of your work during this time.
During the fall, the transition from a woman you are seeing to bride status begins. If you don’t want a girlfriend, start building a solid churn of girls to “hang out” with, preferably at least 3.
Online dating is the key
If you are not in a position to have a “winter girlfriend” and are looking to meet new women, online dating is one of the best routes you can take. You’ll be able to pick up a host of new girls during the cold winter months in the comfort of your warm home. There are millions of women who are as lazy as you are in dealing with a cold and are also looking to find a new partner during this time of year. In fact, online dating services get their maximum activity from users in the months of November to February, with the Christmas / New Year season being the highest. This can be a gold mine for meeting women, so take advantage of it.
Popular bars of the week
Although bar / club activity bottoms out in the winter, there is usually at least 1 day of the week that is still popular. You practically have no choice but to go to these places during this time.
Find out where the specialty drinks are because that’s where people will go. Dealing with the weather sucks, but the motivation to get out kicks in once people find out there’s a bar that serves $ 1 beers. I’ve been to bars where it was packed even when there was practically a blizzard outside just because the special drink for the night was so good. Go to metromix.com and find the best drink deals of the week. Most likely there are a good number of women congregating in these places.
Work with what you have
This is not the time to be picky about the women you approach. I’m not saying throw your standards out the window and start dating runaways, but you have to work with what you have. This is not the summer when there is an endless supply of women to turn to. Winter is a different ball game and you won’t have as many opportunities to get close. So take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way.
As long as there are 1 or 2 women in the place, that’s all you need to work with. Get the money out and go talk to them. I’ve seen a lot of success in places where it was a hardcore sausage festival and there were only a handful of women to talk to.
Work your day routine
Since the night scene is often non-existent, make the most of your daytime routine. On your way to and from work, there are MANY women walking that you can get up close to. If you work in a large office building, try meeting new women in the common area during your lunch break. You’ll find at least a few pretty girls to talk to at the grocery store, especially on Monday through Friday nights.
During the Christmas season, shopping malls are filled with women shopping for gifts. Approach them and ask them to help you choose a gift for your little nephew. Health clubs are full of women, especially during the winter. Right after the New Year, EVERYONE is trying to shed those extra pounds during the holidays, so you can meet more women there than at a nightclub.
If you want it bad enough, you will find a way to pick up girls during this time. When I was working on these things, I saw ANY part of my day as an opportunity to meet women, no matter how ridiculous it was. I remember being in a traffic jam on the freeway and seeing a cute girl next to my car. I’d tell him to roll down the windows and start talking to her right there. For me, as long as there was a woman in my neighborhood, I had no excuse not to make it happen.
Use the weather to your advantage
Cold weather can be used to your advantage. Since it’s a pain to walk outside, this is a perfect excuse to stay indoors. If you are meeting a woman, tell her to meet you at your house. Since the weather sucks, say “Yeah, I don’t feel like dealing with all the cold right now, let’s just watch a movie.” Think about it, her being in your house is much closer to the bedroom than if you were in a Starbucks. Often the most important logistics you have to work with is getting them inside your home first. This is not a problem when the weather sucks.
Don’t stop, get it Get it
The most important point is DO NOT STOP what you are doing during the winter season. Boys naturally get lazy and want to stay indoors when the weather starts to get colder. This can kill any progress you were in and leave you just as badly off with women by spring. I’ve given you enough ways to flirt with girls during the winter season in this article so that you have ZERO excuses not to move and start having fun. Once you do, you will often find that the winter season is truly the season to give … and to receive. 🙂