Since the breakup, you’ve heard the advice many times that if you want your ex boyfriend back, you should ignore him. It doesn’t make logical sense at first glance. How ignoring a man can get him back with you? By not ignoring it it seems more positive, doesn’t it? You feel inside that right now is the right time to call your ex boyfriend and suggest that they try to work things out, but many people advise you not to try it so as not to ruin your chances of getting back together. You are lost, confused and worried about making a mistake that will cost you the man you love. You should take some time to learn the psychology of men before you do anything. There’s a good reason why you should listen to those people who tell you not to call or text your ex boyfriend and to forget his home and office address.
Right now you have no control over what will happen after the breakup.: After the breakup, the person pursuing their ex lover is not in control of what will happen with the future of the relationship. Women often feel like they could continually live their lives in the pages of a romance novel. You’ll imagine that moment when your boyfriend picks up the phone to tell you that he can’t make it through a day without the two of you. That probably won’t actually happen if you keep chasing him relentlessly. Your actions play a bigger role in this situation than your words and right now your actions loudly declare that you are desperate and you don’t care who knows.
Your ex boyfriend is in full control of what happens next and if he decides to ignore you, he knows within him that you will increase your efforts and pursue him more. You’re basically telling him that you’ll try harder to get him back if he ignores you more. You’re all over him and that’s what feeds his ego. Most men in this situation don’t quickly allow her ex girlfriend the time of day because they want to see how far she will go to get him back. All you have to do now is change the dynamics of the relationship so that you can be in control of the future, and to do that you have to change your behavior. He will quickly decide that he wants you back the moment he realizes and believes that you don’t want him anymore. He will surprise you how quickly it will happen.
Not answering your ex boyfriend’s text messages is not the only way to ignore him, there are more.: A big mistake women make before they start ignoring their ex boyfriend is letting him know their intentions in such a way that he realizes it’s a game. If you tell your ex boyfriend that you won’t talk to him again because you’re too emotional, he’ll see it as a ploy to win him back. Then his competitive spirit will be activated in him and he will devise his own plan to ignore you. Before you know it, a few weeks or months will have passed and you two will be too stubborn to contact each other.
You just have to stay away from your ex boyfriend without giving him a wink of your intentions. Take a moment to decide that he is not going to talk to his ex-boyfriend for at least a month. Keep what you want a secret to yourself because mutual friends love to gossip if you let them know your intentions. Your ex boyfriend will realize again that you are not using touch as a means of reminding him how much he needs you.
You have to try by all means necessary to focus on something positive and exciting during the next month. It’s so tempting to lock yourself in your apartment and think about all the good times you had when you were together. You’re not going to accomplish anything productive if you do that. This month is meant for you to rediscover who you are, as a woman, and to know what you want from life.
Take the opportunity as you distance yourself from your ex to redefine what your life goals are.
Redefine your goals in life while distancing yourself from your ex: The moment you begin your quest to ignore your ex boyfriend, you’re in for a couple of pleasant surprises. First of all, her answers will surprise you. A typical behavior of men is that they will want women who don’t want them anymore. The moment your ex boyfriend realizes that you have stopped all your efforts to win back his attention; he will set out to win your heart back. It’s an amazing mechanism. Men are widely known for wanting things that just aren’t anywhere near their reach in life. If an ex girlfriend is one of those things, she will do whatever it takes to win her back. If you basically take away from her the understanding that you love her, she will start to question who you really love. The moment that happens, your ex boyfriend will quickly run to you and try to get you to explain the changes you have made.
Another benefit of ignoring your ex boyfriend that is more important is that you will finally be able to choose in a clear emotional state if getting back together is what you need or want. A month after the breakup, things look and feel very different. You have a balanced emotion, your future is less defined and you are open to a whole range of possibilities. One of the best gifts you can receive is giving yourself the opportunity to take a break from your ex boyfriend. You will finally be able to choose what you feel is best for you and if getting back together with your ex boyfriend is really the best means to make all your romantic dreams come true.
