The 18 reason why you can’t find love seems illogical if two people are together for love. It would seem that they are together to experience things together. When that doesn’t happen, you have to wonder what’s really going on. Reason number 18 is that you won’t give your partner what they want. This is unfortunate because the relationship has to be nurtured. Both are responsible for nurturing the relationship. If both hold on, the relationship begins to die.

This happens more than people want to admit. If you refuse to give your partner what he wants and you are able to, why are you with him? If you’re playing tit for tat because you think they resist, you both lose.

In most cases, people do not have open conversations about what the other wants. They assume they know what is desired. In many cases, those assumptions are based on past experience. In other words, they believe because they have been in a relationship in the past, they know what everyone wants. So instead of asking the new love of your life what they need in a relationship, assume they already know. What’s worse is that they retain it. Withholding can be a form of manipulation or control. It is a way of telling the person that they have to do things your way. Otherwise, they will be deprived of affection or some other important aspect of a relationship. When they both start playing that game, they all lose.

So if you can give them what they want, give it to them. Or find someone you want to give it to.