Sometimes a girl can almost go crazy just trying to figure out what her man is thinking and feeling. At the very least, she can get serious migraine headaches if she insists on analyzing the motivations and actions of the male species.

In short, guys are so hard to read because women try so hard to read them and see all the wrong things.

Do not think too much! (He sure isn’t)

Men are very different from women when it comes to how they think. The two sexes are mentally programmed to be motivated by completely different things; he seeks fulfillment and mastery in various areas of his life (social, material, physical), while women are motivated for the most part by the need for connection with others and emotional fulfillment.

All you have to do is witness how a man drives a car and a woman drives it very differently. Men are not naturally adept at multitasking; they excel when all their focus and efforts are squarely towards one thing and one thing only. A woman, on the other hand, will drive while she does six other things simultaneously.

Panic attacks are twice as common in women as in men. This is no coincidence; men can relax their thoughts and literally think of nothing; women can’t quiet their brains and just relax.

He is as clueless as you

Most men have no idea what they are feeling and thinking at any given moment. It is not that they are not thinking or feeling; in reality, they just don’t take note or remember the details.

However, he most likely knows how he feels about you; but don’t expect any eloquence and statements that cement this fact until he feels very comfortable with you.

You only see what he is comfortable showing you.

Speaking of comfort, you want him to feel safe and trust you. This requires slowly building a bond over time, and you can’t rush or fake this. Well, you can, but not for long.

The longer you spend with a man, and the more you demonstrate your integrity and trustworthiness to him, the less difficult it will be for you to get a reading on him. It will just click eventually.

Game Men and the Opposites: Why you need to play

With men, unfortunately we can’t always do what we say and say what we mean. They just don’t make it that easy.

On an instinctual level, guys need conflict and fighting for something they can win. That is why you have to make your secret wants and needs invisible by changing them using the Opposites Game. If you want more attention from him, give him a lot less. If you’re dying to read it and know what he’s thinking and feeling at any given moment, you have to take the sneaky route and not express that desire directly. If you want him to talk more about his emotions, avoid any conversation about your emotions and angrily mention that you hate those musky things.

Weird? Yes, but it seems to work.

Why you should never obsess over reading it

Ultimately, you shouldn’t worry your pretty little head about what it’s thinking and feeling. Why? Because all you can do is be yourself, and after that, you have no control over your thoughts or emotions anyway.

Especially if they have nothing to do with you.

Even if you’re officially his new girlfriend, you should keep in mind that just as a whole world was going on before he walked into your life, he has things on his mind that he’s been thinking about for a while, long before. your.

Another reason not to worry about it

You also shouldn’t worry too much about struggling in a vain attempt to fully figure it out because it’s likely to be constantly changing.

Women are the ones who get a bad rap for repeatedly changing their minds, and yet men are much more to blame for this. Due to a massive fear of confrontation with you, he will keep things to himself no matter how crucial they are.

Because you can never expect your emotional security to remain constant in any relationship, you shouldn’t feel giddy and sick with worry reading it today.

To be careful

There is a small chance that your guy is deliberately making it difficult for you to read and decipher it. Why? Because he’s keeping something from you and he definitely doesn’t want you to know what it is.

Your instincts can usually guide you if this is the case.