Getting back together with an ex boyfriend after you’ve been abroad or been on an assignment can be difficult and it’s hard to know where to start. Being deployed and away from family and friends can change a person and you may find that your boyfriend is not exactly the person you knew before he left.

Sometimes when a man has been abroad, depending on what he has done, he may have been in some traumatic situations and seen things he won’t forget for a long time. It is certain that he is not the same person who left you and it will be a good idea to go slowly in rebuilding a relationship. You may need to start dating again like you never dated before. Take your time to get to know each other again.

Since both have changed during the time they were apart, they can now be more compatible. On the other hand, you may be less compatible. This is something you will have to explore. You can’t build your relationship solely on shared past memories; you need to build future memories in the future. Perhaps you are no longer destined to be together. This is something you will need to discover over time.

In these circumstances, it’s a good idea to take your time. Go on dates and spend time chatting, enjoying being together. Maybe spend some time away from friends and family so you can be alone and spend quality time together away from distractions. Find some things that you both enjoy and do them. Things like horseback riding, bowling, skiing, and traveling are some examples. Whatever you both enjoy doing and have some adventures together. After serving a tour of duty, your man will want to do some everyday things and will just need some much-needed “R and R.”

Being in a relationship isn’t always about romantic candlelit dinners and bouquets of roses. It’s about getting along with each other on a daily basis through whatever comes up. It is about mutual commitment and building a strong relationship both emotionally and physically. It’s about supporting each other during difficult times. It is the depth of this connection that keeps them going.

It’s worth noting that when you’re involved with someone who’s in the military, you’re taking a more difficult route. All relationships take effort and can hit hard times, but when your partner is in the military, it adds another dimension to your relationship. You will need to be prepared to be apart for different lengths of time and may even need to be sent abroad for a period together as a couple. This lifestyle is not without its dangers and there is an increased risk of injury or death.

Part of being in a relationship with your military boyfriend means accepting the kind of work he does and supporting him in his career choice. You can’t fall in love and then expect him to give up his job for you.

There will be aspects of his life that he will not have the freedom to share with you, so it will be essential to be able to trust your man. You will have to accept that he should never talk about some things that he has been involved in.

Getting back together with an ex boyfriend after he’s been off duty can be challenging, but also exciting. Both you and he will start over and you will have your entire future ahead of you to enjoy it together.