Ever since the day I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, I wanted nothing more than to contact him. She wanted to talk and hear his lovely voice. I wanted to talk to him and see if it’s possible to reconcile. A couple of times my ex-boyfriend answered the phone, after a while he stopped answering the phone. What feels worse than being abandoned is the feeling of being ignored! I felt depressed and it was only aggravating my pain.
Finally, I got over the urge to call him. So I am sharing some practical ways that you can also use to resist the urge to contact your ex.
1. Ask yourself why you NEED to call him
What is the motivation for you to contact your ex? For me, I found that when I’m bored or not busy, I just feel like calling him. For you, it could be some other reason. So every time you pick up the phone to call him, ask yourself why. Then take a few minutes to reason in your mind about those reasons.
What are you going to talk about? Will talking to him make me feel better?
2. Call someone else instead!
If you really feel like calling, call someone other than your ex. It can be a friend or family member you can trust and will listen to what you have to say.
3. Stay busy
When your mind is not busy you tend to think about your ex boyfriend and this in turn will make you want to call him. So do something to distract yourself when you have that initial thought about your ex. Go out with your friends, try a new hobby, or learn something new. So it is best to keep busy.
4. Get rid of things that remind you of your ex
Photos and gifts are the most common culprits. If you have these items in plain view, put them in a box and store them somewhere you can’t reach them, when you feel most vulnerable. I gave it to one of my good friends for safe keeping. I also told him, don’t give me even if he comes begging you!
5. Avoid places where your ex hangs out
It’s going to be hard to forget your ex and not contact him when you constantly run into him. I must admit that I even took different bus routes just so I could see it while running in the morning. Looking back now, it all seems so pathetic! At the time, it wasn’t doing me any good because when I watch running in the morning, I end up thinking about him all day. This in turn would make me want to call him, even more!
