In the summer of 1994 (could it have been 18 already?), I used my first dating site. I forgot the name, even though I remember the phrase “personal photos” in the title, and it was this phrase and the possibilities I was talking about (actually seeing hundreds of potential men to date) that convinced me to sign up, with a lot of emotion I was single and ready to mix. And the prospect of flipping through hundreds (hundreds, not thousands, being a lot of dating profiles at the time) filled me with nervous anticipation.
However, I had a problem. I’m sure you can guess what it was about. How could I write a good dating profile? There were no examples of online dating profiles to attract men. Trust me, I checked and I checked. So I managed and put together my first dating profile. It was something like this:
I am 19 years old and I want a boyfriend
I have no idea what to write here, which is very strange because I am actually a writer (well, I am preparing to become one in college). Anyway, where was it? Oh yeah. If you are a nice, handsome guy who is not an ax murderer (sorry, no exceptions), please contact us. If you are an ax killer, try killing pillows instead; They are less messy! If you want to know more (about the good guys), don’t be afraid to ask. Bye!
It’s not super terrible, is it? But not super good either!
Fast forward eighteen years to the present. Here we are, you and me. In almost two decades, I have become a writer, dating coach, and have written too many dating profiles to remember; some I wrote for myself to find a guy, some I wrote as examples. to help others do it, people like you. And the latter is what I will do now.
In the next few paragraphs I am going to summarize some very powerful insights that will help you attract men on dating sites. And you will do it all with words. Let us begin.
My headline here just sprout hands up and say hello to you!
A headline must attract attention. This is easier than you think. The vast majority of dating profile headlines say the following: “I’m looking for a man”; “I am alone.” Say it with me: Boring! If you were a guy, scanning hundreds of dating profiles, would any of those headlines stand out and grab you by the lapels and require you to read the body of the profile? I did not think.
When you look at most of the examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and I imagine you’ve read some of them), they rarely mention headlines. What a fool! Headlines are arguably more important than anything else. Because it is the headline, what draws attention, the one that gives us the opportunity to tell our story to someone.
Your headline should vibrate. Imagine another thousand headlines, but one of those headlines is lit by a spotlight and when you look closer you hear a marching band and when you lean in closer, the little arms reach out and wave in your direction. How could a boy resist looking at you?
Make your headline different. What is different? Different is a million things. Your unique brain and your life experience will dictate something to you. However, to help, let me give you a few tips.
How can we grab a man’s attention and force him to read our entire profile (so that we can attract him)?
You can use humor. It’s eye-catching and creates a good first impression.
Certain unusual words and phrases, which we didn’t expect to see, are just as powerful.
The question mark at the end of a tantalizing question is also a neat trick. People are forced to read questions and answer them; Don’t you think
And finally, ellipsis is perhaps the smartest way to get a man to read our profile (although, if used alone, it is not enough to grab his attention).
Here are some examples of quote headlines:
(Humor) Help! My dog asked me out on a date. It seems rude. Good guys – Inside!
The example above is pretty good, but be careful not to abuse the exclamation point.
(Unusual words and humor) What PICKLE am I on. I don’t have an appointment! I am also inside a pickle. Come rescue me!
(Question mark and ellipsis) Have you ever met someone as crazy as me? I took a photo and …
Everything about your body! No, not that body – Body in profile!
You know how to attract a man’s attention with your headline. Now we go to the body of your profile; the part that attracts the man and convinces him to contact you.
This article would be unnecessarily long if I gave you dozens of examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and fill your inbox). I always think that it is better to show a person HOW to fish than to give them fish. So let us continue to give you all the advice you will need to attract a man with your body in profile.
Your writing should be conversational (although grammatically correct, so it can be understood). Let your speaking voice shine through your words. After all, this is not a dissertation on global warming!
Start your profile by writing about yourself; finish it off by writing about the kind of man you want to meet.
Refrain from writing about the mundane and the cliché. We all like to have fun and laugh and many of us like to take long walks on the beach. But saying so is redundant. Instead, write about interesting things, perhaps very different, that define your uniqueness. Maybe you like to collect pink socks! Maybe you will make bad pancakes and your own apple sauce! Dare to be different.
Humor is a powerful attractant for men. A cheeky profile picture pales in comparison to a woman with a good sense of humor (the world is littered with cheeky profile pictures, after all – so much so, in fact, that they have become almost subliminal). Let your humor shine.
When completing the part of the profile about yourself, always be sure to ask the man to ask more about you. This encourages that all-important first contact of theirs.
Now when it comes to writing about the man you want to meet, we have a slightly more difficult task (sorry!). We need to filter out unwanted men by wanted men, but we don’t want to come across as too picky in case we put off those wanted men.
Before you start writing this last part, take a moment to ask yourself, in general terms, what kind of guy do you want? Keywords are always the best, maybe written on a piece of paper. Maybe words like funny, tough, mature, established, caring, adventurous describe your ideal man (hey, mine too!)
It is important to specify the traits you want to see in the men who contact you, but do it in a general way and not write a lot. So, be concise. This way, you end up getting the men you want and not discouraging them.
Now let’s wrap up ladies with an example of a good dating profile to attract men that uses everything you’ve learned.
Oh God! My pet fish asked me out! But it’s too wet behind the ears. Old man, rescue me!
Oh, you are here. Thanks god. I have nothing against fish, you understand, but I think I will prefer you. But enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What do you think of me ?!
Oh yeah, I should tell you something first, right?
Well, I’m here because I’m single, enjoying life, but looking for a man with whom to share all the fun life decides to throw at me. Even the best things, like donuts and coffee, taste better with a nice guy who enjoys them with you, too.
Speaking of donuts and coffee, yum, that’s my breakfast of choice. I also make a bad omelette. Well, it’s not bad, you get it. He doesn’t jump off the plate and yell, “Hey, don’t eat me!” But, well, you understand me.
When I’m not making talking tortillas, I love going to the markets on the weekends for a bargain. Last weekend I bought this lamp made from a cavalry helmet. During the day, I work as a writer, have coffees, and listen to Aerosmith and Bon Jovi in my apartment. I have a potted plant named Cecil, a cat named D. Mille, and together they watch movies while I work, best friends. I spend my afternoons inside, watching black and white movies or anything by Woody Allen, and dreaming of a man next to me, possibly you.
And who is this man, this man to steal my heart? Well, he’s mature, tough, funny, kind, and considerate, with some kind of interesting job.
If you want to know more, ask. I don’t bite, the same can’t be said for my tortillas!
And there you have it: a dating profile infused with the knowledge you just gained.
Before I leave you, and you start putting your new knowledge into practice, let me suggest that you click here to create a dating profile and put what you’ve learned to the test. I recommend this site to all my clients (and readers) because they allow you to create profiles for free and they are one of the largest dating communities in the world.
Have fun attracting your man and thanks for reading!
